Gorgeous (re: instagram interviews photo)!! Where's that dress from?
Thanks! It’s GUESS, but I actually found it at Marshall’s! (You know I love to bargain shop) I tried looking for it online, so I could share the link, but no luck. I’m guessing it’s kinda old, which is how it ended up at Marshall’s in the first place lol
If you automatically give the benefit of the doubt even to potential racists but not to potential and actual victims of racism, you are racist. If your first instinct is to invent a scenario in which something racist is okay rather than to support and listen to the person the racist thing directly effects, you’re racist. If you trip over yourself in a rush to defend things that individual POC find racist, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM.
I went to bold one sentance and then just bolded the entire thing.
It’s because there aren’t many colors so they chose the closest one to your skin tone. Honesty I don’t get why this offends you.
You probably don’t get it because you’re a racist.
I’m not racist I’m just stating that that game doesn’t have very many colors and the darkest brown isn’t that dark and whoever drew this realized that it was closer to that fucking color.
The lengths you are going to defend blatant racism is quite embarrassing. There are actually 2 different browns available in addition to numerous color packs, but the person specifically chose black and gave her large white eyes and big read lips. THIS IS A RACIST DEPICTION OF BLACKNESS. Don’t act like this racist asshole was trying to be “accurate” by choosing black instead of brown for this disgusting drawing because there “aren’t a lot of colors”. You realize people are making legit works of art on this app but you really feel the need to speak up and play devil’s advocate for a racist?
THIS. IS. CLEARLY. A. MINSTREL. CARTOON.
I wasn’t defending them in any way I was just saying that maybe whoever made this didn’t know or realize. I’m sorry if my point came across the wrong way.
Offering "there aren’t many colors" as to WHY someone would create this racist artwork is DEFENDING THEM. Not only was your point wrong, it’s offensive. When someone says “hey that’s racist and hurts me” and your response is to search for reasons why the person would do something racist means you’re DEFENDING THAT ACTION.
Maybe he didn’t know or realize? He didn’t realize he was copying MILLIONS of examples of racist caricatures just like this one?? WHY are you giving this person the benefit of the doubt? WHY when someone shares the pain that another person has caused by being racist is your instinct to try and SYMPATHIZE with the person who’s caused that pain?
It’s really more important to you to find ways to rationalize this than to understand why it’s offensive? Don’t answer that. The answer based on your reblogs is yes. I don’t care why the person did it. It’s racist and they know it and so do you. Trying to explain it is disgusting. If you want to apologize for defending this behavior then apologize. Taking responsibility for what you said doesn’t include “sorry IF” because there’s no if. Your point didn’t come across the wrong way, your point was WRONG.
Since I tend to get a lot of email spam from aspiring bloggers, small business owners and rappers (whyyyyy all the mixtape emails???), I made a canned response that hopefully explains why spam is bad and how to prevent it. I’m sharing this as a heads up (please don’t spam me!) but also so you can use this response for yourself.
Don’t know how to use/create canned responses? You’re in luck! Here’s a tutorial that shows you how to make standard email responses that you can plug in with just a click! Yay gmail productivity!
Please remove my email from your mailing list.
I know promoting your business online is challenging, but sending unsolicited mass emails is considered spam and really does more harm than good. Spam not only turns away potential customers, but too many spam complaints can get your email account suspended.
When sending large emails, please make sure to BCC (blind carbon copy) the addresses, so the emails aren’t exposed. Unfortunately people steal addresses from these mass emails and then add them to other lists. It then becomes a never ending cycle of spam which is the worst. We must stop the spam!
Services like mail chimp or constant contact are really the best way to reach lots of potential customers via email because they can voluntarily sign up, all the addresses are protected and you can easily opt out. They also have templates to make your emails look pretty, so it’s a win win for everyone! Yay!
Ok, enough ranting for now. Thanks and best of luck!
Thank you so much for reblogging that video about gender neutral pronouns! I have a good friend who prefers that we use "they" concerning them, and my other friends don't seem to understand it--I'm glad that there is a resource I can throw at them so they might be able to get it. :)
You’re most welcome! That’s great that you respect your friend’s preferred pronouns and are trying to get your other friends to do the same. We need more people like you! Thanks!!
Towards the whole "pronouns hurt people's feelings" topic. Am I REALLY the only person on the planet that thinks people are becoming far to sensative? Nearly to the point that they shouldn't leave their little home bubbles in the case that a bird chirps next to them in a way that sounds like a mean word. Maybe, JUST MAYBE, we're becoming a little TOO coddling and people need to learn to deal with simplistic shit like words. And yes, I've been insulted and made fun of. I got over it. So can you.
Supposedly invented by the Chinese, there is an ancient form of torture that is nothing more than cold, tiny drops falling upon a person’s forehead.
On its own, a single drop is nothing. It falls upon the brow making a tiny splash. It doesn’t hurt. No real harm comes from it.
In multitudes, the drops are still fairly harmless. Other than a damp forehead, there really is no cause for concern.
The key to the torture is being restrained. You cannot move. You must feel each drop. You have lost all control over stopping these drops of water from splashing on your forehead.
It still doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. But person after person, time and time again—would completely unravel psychologically. They all had a breaking point where each drop turned into a horror. Building and building until all sense of sanity was completely lost.
"It was just a joke, quite being so sensitive."
"They used the wrong pronoun, big deal."
"So your parents don’t understand, it could be worse."
Day after day. Drop after drop. It builds up. A single instance on its own is no big deal. A few drops, not a problem. But when you are restrained, when you cannot escape the drops, when it is unending—these drops can be agony.
People aren’t sensitive because they can’t take a joke. Because they can’t take being misgendered one time. Because they lack a thick skin.
People are sensitive because the drops are unending and they have no escape from them.
You are only seeing the tiny, harmless, single drop hitting these so-called “sensitive” people. You are failing to see the thousands of drops endured before that. You are failing to see the restraints that make them inescapable.
The podcast world is one dominated by straight white male comedians reaching middle age. Kid Fury and Crissle are black, gay, young and cool. Their perspective is more sensitive to race, sexual identity and the minority experience than any other podcast that exists right now. Let’s be clear: they can be unapologetically mean to the celebrities they cover, for comedy’s sake. But they know the line and never cross it. Sure, they’ll take the piss out of Keyshia Cole for tweeting about London’s Eiffel Tower – but then they’ll turn right around and demand basic human dignity for the things that make us different.
YouTube comments aren’t “just the Internet.” They’re not the product of a group of otherwise nice guys who suddenly become evil when they wear a veil of anonymity. YouTube comments are actually a nightmarish glimpse into the sexist attitudes that define the fabric of our own existence in the “real world,” a world that, like YouTube, is owned and dominated by men. The most terrifying gift that the Internet has given us is that it’s shown us how men honestly perceive the world: as a place where women exist exclusively for their sexual pleasure.
In the wake of VidCon, and as more and more women start speaking up about the harassment they face online, it’s time to start realizing that our narrative of progress is deeply flawed. Things aren’t getting better for women on the Internet; they’re deteriorating and ignoring the problem amounts to being complicit in it.
instead of asking “why black women feel the need to wear weaves” let’s ask “why black women have been made to feel that they need a weave in the first place”….
for centuries the standard of beauty has not been that of the black woman…(we all know who i’m talking about) instead we have been pushed to ‘conform’ to those standards without any second thoughts…i mean “white is right”…right….
black women are the only group of people who have been unmercifully criticized for the hair that grows naturally from their scalp…we have been told that our natural locs are “uncivilized’ “ugly’ undesirable’…that in order to be anywhere near beautiful we’ll have to rock straight european hair or permanently straighten our own..it’s all psychological from years and years of conforming..sadly the ideas and stigmas still have an effect on black women of today…
it’s sad that the number of us who have gone natural are looked up to as ‘being brave’ or ‘being a leader….the fact that black women even had to “go natural” shows how much we’ve fucked up and how society has brainwashed us into believing we are less than on the beauty scale because of something God blessed us with…
what’s even more saddening, is not only do black women have to deal with the ignorance of other races not understanding our hair, but we also have to deal with the comments of black men who have fallen into the “bash black hair’ trap….the cycle never ends…
Even though the stigma behind wearing a weave is thought to be fueled by self hatred, on the complete opposite side of the spectrum some women wear weaves to better their natural hair…the elements can be SO harsh on black hair and sometimes it just needs a break. wearing a weave helps maintain hair growth while protecting it from the weather for months at a time.
Also some black women just love to change up their looks every once in awhile and they do so by wearing a weave because it’s much easier than dying, growing, or cutting their natural hair…so let them have fun expressing themselves…
in my experience, i’ve had multiple white women strictly assume that black women wear weaves to “get like them”